An interesting newspaper headline caught my eye this morning on my daily commute regarding a family court ruling where the Judge ordered that a five year old boy be enrolled in a ‘religiously neutral’ school. The case came about as the two – divorced – parents involved could not come to an agreement as to how the boy was to be raised. As the brief article describes it, the mother is a ‘church-goer’ and wants her son to be sent to a (presumably) Christian school, while the father is a self-described humanist who is adamantly opposed.
It is an unfortunate dilemma (all custody cases are) as the court was essentially asked to adjudicate between two conflicting convictions. The articles I could find on the case were limited in depth and presented mainly the arguments put forth by the father – perhaps to skew the story in his favor? – so it is on his points that I will respond to individually below.
The father states:
“I now have strong humanist views, but do not hold religious beliefs. In fact, I have become opposed to religious dogma and organised religion.”
Or it could just be that, given this case is just one of the consequences of a divorce involving children (which typically are not cordial affairs), he is more interested in just opposing his ex-wife’s wishes. As a side note, it would be interesting to know if the opposing views within the marriage toward Christianity had any part to play in the parent’s separation, especially considering the ex-husband’s terse humanist convictions.
“I oppose religious dogmas being thrust on young minds.”
But apparently it is quite ok for the father to thrust his humanist dogmas on his own son. Presumably, he believes that his position is one of neutrality, but in reality there is no such position. There is simply a religious position and a non-religious (or anti-religious) position and the father obviously favors the latter.
He also weights the debate by assuming that all religious ‘teaching’ is not teaching at all, but a form of brain-washing. He assumes too much; he is actually trying, in effect, to thrust his religiously ‘neutral’ dogma onto his son by name-calling his ex-wife’s preference out of the debate. There is no real substance here.
“I have seen the evidence of people who profess to be Christian and then act in a manner which can best be described as un-Christian.”
Obviously, the father knows of Christians who aren’t Christians. (I wonder if he thought that argument through?) I would be interested in knowing by what standard he judges who is a Christian and who is not, but we are not privvy to this information. In any case, while it may be true that some people who profess to be Christians aren’t in practice, it does not mean that Christianity as a religion is a bad thing. That he raises this as a line of argument tells me that he is fearful of his son turning into a religious hypocrite. A fair enough fear, easily countered – I dare say – by: 1) understanding what Christianity deems is appropriate behavior, and; 2) working with his ex-wife to ensure his son taught accordingly, especially since he is unintentionally implying that proper Christians have favorable behaviors. But I’d simply wager he does not have interest in working with his ex on this – paint me skeptical.
I think the Judge, Magistrate Stewart Brown, thought he was likewise taking a “cautious approach” when he ruled that the boy be enrolled in a non-religious school. In actuality it was a ruling in favor of the father’s position which, as I’ve argued, is not at all neutral. The mother now needs to prayerfully work harder on instructing her son regarding her Christian faith – frankly, that’s not a bad thing (even if the ruling went her way she should be doing this anyway as that is an appropriate Christian behaviour) and I’d encourage her to do so.
Read the full article below and do share your thoughts.
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This is a little too ironic to not share. Over at pastor Tim Guthrie’s blog,







