Back in November, a story hit the newspapers about two same-sex attracted school girls at Ivanhoe Girl’s Grammar High School. The sensationist story was all about how the school did not allow these two girls to go to their year 11 ”Preston Dinner Dance” together as a couple. They were instead requested to invite males as partners to this dance. The immediate outcry was that of discrimination based on sexual orientation. The school responded with the fact that since this was an all-girls school, they wanted to host an activity where they could meet boys in a social scenario. If the girls were not requested to bring boys as partners then they would just invite, and go with, each other (which had happened in the past).
During the course of the media coverage it was revealed that the school was a Christian school and was thus harshly accused of being hateful and bigoted by the media and public. Given the sudden anti-Christian sentiment toward the school board and principal, my wife sent the following email of encouragement.
To the principal and staff,
I would just like to extend my thanks and appreciation of the schools actions in relation to the item in the news regarding the schools formal. It’s wonderful to see that there are still people out there who are willing to stand up for the faith and stand strong in the face of adversity. It’s not something that you see very often anymore, and it cannot be easy being the target of a hate campaign aimed at your school and Christian “bigots”. Well done. We will be praying for you all.
Sincerely
C M
This was the reply:
Thank you for your correspondence in response to the media coverage of our Year 11 formal. I appreciate your point of view on this matter.
We have apologised to both girls for the hurt and distress they have felt as a result of the unintended consequence of our school policy for social events.
Our current policy as a single sex school is to make the Year 11 social event one that includes a balance of males and females and our policy is to ask girls, if they wish to bring guests, to bring male guests. However, there is no pressure on them to do so and often students come on their own. At all the events there are significantly more girls than boys and this is our way of trying to address this imbalance. It is important to note that this applies only to Year 11 and below.
Unfortunately this has been misconstrued as if the School was not supportive of same sex relationships. Same sex partners have attended the School’s Year 12 Formal for many years.
Ivanhoe Girls’ is a diverse and supportive community which certainly supports all students, parents and staff in their life choices.
In the light of this current matter, however, we will be reviewing and revising our policy regarding social events with our school community to ensure such a misunderstanding may never recur. The review process will be thorough and involve consultations with our current and past students, as well as parents, starting with a forum and continuing with further consultation next year.
The care and wellbeing of our students is of paramount importance, both to me personally and the entire School.
Dr Heather Schnagl
Principal
Ivanhoe Girls’ Grammar School
This response took us a little aback. Wasn’t this a Christian school?
My wife’s response to this revelation was fairly brief and to the point, and I think it’s a good example of Christian diplomacy in this kind of situation.
Dear Dr Schnagl
Thank you for responding to my email, I can imagine you had more than a few to read. It was, however, my mistake to send my initial email. On the schools website it states that the School wishes to “provide the best learning and teaching …underpinned by the Christian philosophy…”. I’m not sure how you define Christian philosophy, but I think I wrongly assumed you were referring to Christian values and law. I see that this is not the case as it seems that the school is in fact supportive of same sex relationships.
Kind regards
C M
In other words, please forgive us for mistaking your school as one that upholds Christian values.
Essentially it came down to this – don’t call yourself a Christian if in fact your convictions are not in accordance with Scripture, but rather, are more in step with the main stream media and anyone else who wants to blow a trumpet for secular values.